Chapter 64 Strange customs

The preparation for the previous stage of this marriage is almost the same as Yang Dalang's marriage. After taking the rules such as three books and six rites, Yang Sanlang can officially marry Lin Sanniang on the auspicious day set in the morning.

These rules and etiquette of welcoming relatives are nothing more than the big red flower sedan chair, blowing and beating, setting off firecrackers, which are almost the same as what fish saw on TV in their previous life, and even the etiquette of worshipping heaven and earth makes the fish feel familiar. The only thing that makes fish feel different and novel is the two unique marriage customs of southern Fujian, "road-wiel chicken" and "sled cane".

It is said that the fish pestered Liu for a long time before learning that this "the guide chicken" and "tailed cane" are very famous in the Hui'an area. Anyone can ask them. It is also one of the more interesting wedding customs in southern Fujian. These two customs also convey the blessings of the newlyweds that the newlyweds can live a happy life after marriage. .

When Yuer heard this custom on the first day of the lunar new year, he thought that on the day Yang Sanlang married Lin Sanniang, he needed to find a big red rooster to lead the way in front of the sedan chair! On that day, he enthusiastically discussed with Liu, saying how to make the rooster concentrate on leading the way and run around without fluttering its wings. The fish has even figured out a way to sprinkle rice to lead the big rooster...

Unbeknown that after discussing with Liu, the fish knew that this so-called "road guide chicken" was not really used to guide the way, but just a meaning of leading the newlyweds to a happy life.

Liu knew that the fish had always been interested in various customs in the village, so he slowly explained it to the fish. First of all, the "road guide chicken" should be in pairs, a rooster and a hen, and it must be a healthy pair of chickens with bright feathers. The hen should choose the kind that can lay eggs on the same day, and the rooster should choose the one that will crow just now.

Liu also told Yuer that this "road- leading chicken" had to be prepared by Lin Sanniang's mother, but because Lin Sanniang lost her mother since she was a child, the Lin family asked her direct aunt to help prepare. Lin Sanniang's aunt first went to the shop and pulled a nine-foot-long wide red belt, and then tied the two ends of the red belt to the two chickens.

This specially pulls the nine-foot-long red belt because "nine" is homophonic and "long" and has the meaning of "often long"; and the use of the big red belt is to look at the festive scenery, and the other is to take the meaning of "red fire".

The woman's family gave the newlyweds chicken with a red belt, hoping that her daughter could get along well with her son-in-law and respect each other after she married. She should not only stay together and grow old together, but also have a "good life" for a lifetime. This "good fate" is also a local mantra in southern Fujian, which means that after my daughter gets married, she can live a smooth life without worrying about food and clothing.

The "heading chicken" Lin family prepared early according to the rules. On the day of the wedding, the bride-in-law who accompanied the bride to go out mentioned the man's house with a flower basket, and the bride-in-law put it under the new bed in the new house.

Because the fish heard Liu's strange marriage custom early, her niece put the pair of chickens under the new bed. The fish squeezed at the door with the people who came to watch the house and stretched out their necks to explore the house. She was very concerned about whether the chickens put under the bed first came out of the bed or the female. The chicken came out from the bottom of the bed first...

The people in this small village are very superstitious. They have always speculated by such rules that the new bride gave birth to a boy or a daughter. They are not like fish just because they are curious to see the bustle and feel the atmosphere.

Because people in the Northern Song Dynasty generally favored boys over girls, especially in rural areas, under the threat of the idea of "boys over girls", when the lively people see the hen poked their heads first, they will shout loudly, "boo" repeatedly, and constantly scare the hens back quickly...

If the rooster pokes its head first, the bride's relatives and friends will secretly sprinkle some rice ** the rooster and walk out a few more steps until the rooster comes out of the bed before the hen, and then people will disperse happily.

And the rooster comes out first, which naturally indicates that the first child of the new bride will give birth to a boy...

Of course, this "road-led chicken" is a mascot. Not only can it not be slaughtered, but it also serves them deliciously, and the hens will leave raw eggs. Because "egg" is homophonic with "generation", it takes its meaning of "generational (egg) transmission".

Even if the two chickens slowly die of old age, the couple who raise them cannot cook them, but have to be buried thickly. As soon as Yuer heard about this rule at that time, she sent out such a feeling - it can be said that once the ordinary chicken was selected as the "leading chicken", the rest of his life will not only have no worries about food and clothing, but also have to worry about being slaughtered to the table, which is more worthy of being admitted to the top student as a "civil servant"!

Another interesting Hui'an wedding custom "with tail cane" appeared on the day when Yang Sanlang and Lin Sanniang returned to their wedding. This "back door" is a major feature of Chinese weddings, and people in southern Fujian also attach great importance to this rule. Therefore, on the third day of marrying the Yang family, Lin Sanniang went back to her mother's house in pink clothes accompanied by Yang Sanlang...

The clothes worn when they get married and when they return to the wedding are also very exquisite. Lin Sanniang is the right-headed woman who is being married by Yang Sanlang Ming media. When they get married, they have to wear a big red wedding dress symbolizing the right-headed woman. Only those concubines of large families are not allowed to wear big red wedding clothes when they enter the door, and those concubines are usually It is also not allowed to wear a big red dress.

However, the lady can wear a big red dress and other colors of skirts, and the bride has to wear a pink dress when she returns to the door. These dresses were sent to the Lin family by pulling various colors of cloth in advance by the Yang family. They were made by Lin Sanniang herself and then brought them to the Yang family in a cage.

The rules for returning to Xiaoqi Village are a little different from other places. In other places, after the newlyweds return to the door, the newlyweds can stay for a few days, but the rule of Xiaoqi Village is that the newlyweds cannot stay at their mother's house for the night on that day and have to rush back to the groom's house before dusk.

Therefore, Yang Sanlang accompanied Lin Sanniang back to visit Lao Taishan. Seeing that the time was almost time, he took Lin Sanniang to leave. Lin Donghan, who became Yang Sanlang's father-in-law, would take out two sugar canes and let Yang Sanlang take them back to Yang's house.

These two sugar canes must have a head and tail, and they must also be tied with a nine-foot-long wide-faced red head rope. The tail of the cane must be dragged away and called "green" according to the rules, and Yang Sanlang has to drag the sugar cane all the way home until he is dragged into the new house and put in the wedding**

Lin Donghan sent sugar cane and let Yang Sanlang drag it home has two meanings. First, because sugar cane grows into sections, which is usually called "there is a festival" and "there is a festival" with the same as "there is cleanliness". Therefore, this sugar cane also means the chastity of the new bride; second, the sugar cane tastes very sweet. It is intended that the newlyweds will live a sweet and happy life in the future.

After returning from her mother's house, Lin Sanniang only lived in the Yang family for another 12 days and returned to the Lin family accompanied by Yang Sanlang. This time, only Yang Sanlang returned to the Yang family alone and Lin Sanniang did not come back together.

Yuer was very puzzled when she first saw such a situation. She thought that Lin Sanniang had quarreled with Yang Sanlang, so she stayed at her mother's house and didn't come back. Therefore, as soon as Yang Sanlang returned home, he had been secretly observing his look, thinking that Lin Sanniang quarreled with Yang Sanlang just a few days after he got married, and Yang Sanlang must be very uncomfortable.

Unexpectedly, Yang Sanlang seemed to be fine. He should eat and drink. It seemed that he didn't feel uncomfortable at all because Lin Sanniang returned to his mother's house. Such Yang Sanlang puzzled the fish and finally couldn't help asking: "Third brother, where's the third sister-in-law? Why didn't I come back with you?"

"Your third sister-in-law will live in your mother's house from today. Didn't your mother tell you?" Yang Sanlang felt that it was a little strange for Yuer to ask this.

As soon as Yuer heard this, she became more and more confused and asked puzzledly, "Is the third sister-in-law going to live in the Lin family from today? Why is this?

When Yang Sanlang saw that the fish was puzzled, he suddenly patted the back of the head and suddenly realized, "I know. My mother didn't tell my sister about the unique customs of our marriage in Hui'an. No wonder you feel strange and abrupt about your third sister-in-law's parents' house. This is the case..."

It turns out that Hui'an has a post-marital custom that makes fish feel strange - Hui'an's daughter can only stay at her husband's house for 15 days after getting married. As soon as the bride arrives, she must go back to her mother's parents for 15 days. It is not until New Year's Eve this year that the husband can take his wife home for one night, but the next day the husband must Send your wife back to your mother's home.

That is to say, Lin Sanniang lived in Yang's house for 15 days before returning to her parents according to the rules. And from now on, only when the arrival of large traditional festivals and specific moments, such as the Spring Festival, Qingming Festival and the Zhongyuan Festival on July 15, as well as the winter solstice and busy farming, can Yang Sanlang take Lin Sanniang back to Yang's house for one to two days...

Repeatedly, until Lin Sanniang opened branches and gave birth to a child for the Yang family, then she could live with Yang Sanlang in the Yang family.

After hearing this marriage rules, the fish was quite shocked. The first thing that came to mind was that Yang Sanlang and Yang Sanniang lived together for only a few days after marriage. Even if they worked very hard to sow seeds on every reunion day, they had to have a high hit rate and Lin Sanniang to give birth to a child. Come on!

And if the child has not been born, then Yang Sanlang and Lin Sanniang must continue to live separately until the birth of the child. Isn't this a vicious circle?

If a couple is born with some defects and can't have children, don't they have to live a life of separation?

The fish can't tell these questions in her heart, so she can only mutter: "Where did this rule come from? It sounds really weird..."

Yang Sanlang also learned this rule from Liu's mouth before they got married. He also tried to find out how this rule was formed, so at present, as soon as the fish asked him, he could just give the answer: "Sister, in fact, the custom of our little woman Hui'an living in her mother's house is not born out of nothing. There are..."

It turns out that from the past to the present, some men in southern Fujian have been fishing outside for a long time and rarely stay at home, which makes women who are alone at home less dependent. Some men have no relatives in their families, only their daughters-in-law. In this way, as soon as a man goes to sea, his daughter-in-law will go back to live in his mother's house.

This move probably meant that she wanted her daughter-in-law to go back to her mother's home and take care of her life, but it gradually unconsciously formed the habit of Hui'an's daughter to live in her mother's house after marriage.