Chapter 99 Easy to Know and Difficult to Do

"And... I'm a little macho and a little peasant consciousness. Well, my heart is not broad enough, and sometimes I'm more stingy..."

After listening to Ding Yi's question, Fan Fei was stunned and replied hesitantly.

Fan Fei originally thought that the sentence "only little cleverness and no big wisdom" could tell the most important defects in his personality and pass it smoothly. Unexpectedly, Ding Yi was not satisfied, so he had to squeeze some out like squeezing toothpaste. This feeling is as uncomfortable as he used to make a self-criticism in front of Mr. He Qingmei.

In fact, everyone knows that they have many shortcomings, but most people lack the courage to dissect their own soul, and they lack the habit and determination to "a gentleman has done his body three times a day", so it is easy to turn a blind eye to their own shortcomings and think it is no big deal; they can see the shortcomings of others. However, being able to judge how these shortcomings will affect that person's life may be the origin of "bystanders".

And Fan Fei has always been a teenager with strong self-esteem, so it is really more uncomfortable than killing him to let him do this kind of self-criticism in front of others and expose his shortcomings, but he has to do so, otherwise he will not be able to pass Ding Yi and be unable to reunite with Ding Shichen.

And the shortcomings he said were obtained by combining the opinions of Lv Heng and Xu Jing. Fan Fei did not particularly agree with them, but he finally knew that what they said was a little bit. As for Han Long, Fan Fei also sincerely consulted today, but Han Long believes that his apprentice is capable of literature and martial arts, and has countless advantages. Even if there are some small shortcomings, it is not surprising. As the saying goes, there is no perfect person. Those shortcomings are just "fireflies under the moon". In a word, the flaws are not hidden...

"Yes, it's difficult for you to say four shortcomings at once, but it's not refined enough, and you haven't grasped the essence yet." Ding Yi smiled and said, "In fact, what you said earlier without great wisdom is just two words to sum up, reckless! And the four shortcomings you just mentioned can also be summed up in two words..."

"Two words?" Fan Fei frowned slightly and habitually went to his pocket to touch the smoke, but looked at Ding Yi and the old Buddha who was snoring slightly, his hand stopped.

"It doesn't matter. You can smoke if you want, so that you can find inspiration." Ding Yi said with a peaceful smile.

"No, I can't let you smoke second-hand smoke. That's too selfish." Fan Fei took a deep breath and restrained his addiction. Then there was a flash of inspiration in his mind. He recalled a word just said, and suddenly felt enlightened.

"Do you think of it?" Ding Yi looked at the expression on Fan Fei's face and smiled.

"Yes, I think of it." Fan Fei took a deep breath again and said, "These four shortcomings are summed up as two words, selfish!"

"Go on." Ding Yi nodded with a satisfied smile on his face.

Male chauvinism is actually a kind of small peasant consciousness. Everything is self-centered and rarely thinks differently. It does not think about other people's feelings from the perspective of the other party. Therefore, it is easy to be influenced by your own emotions when things happen. If you only think about your own feelings and don't think about others, you can't see why others want it. No matter how high your IQ is, you will be affected by emotional intelligence and make fatal judgment mistakes. This is true on men's and women's issues, and it's the same on other issues..."

Speaking of this, Fan Fei immediately remembered the misunderstanding when he bought a mobile phone with Ding Shichen. He felt a little emotional for a moment and was distracted for a while.

Ding Yi nodded again and waited for Fan Fei to continue.

"It is because of this that my mind is not broad enough, because the first thing that comes to my mind is always my own feelings, not the feelings of others, especially when it comes to self-esteem, interests and so on. So I sometimes be stingy. I'm not only stingy about money, but also the untimely self-esteem and competitive spirit. In short, I'm pettish and not generous enough. Fan Fei sighed and concluded, "So, these four shortcomings are actually selfish in nature."

"Do you think selfishness is a problem?" Ding Yi smiled.

"Of course." Fan Fei simply replied, "People should not be selfish."

"You can't say that completely." Ding Yi laughed and said, "Although selfishness is a derogatory term, it is actually a human instinct, an animal instinct, and a powerful driving force for social progress. Otherwise, there will be no private ownership in our society. Spread out and say, who doesn't want to get some benefits from others to meet their own needs? Isn't there a saying that if people don't stop, heaven and earth will be destroyed..."

"Uncle Ding, what do you mean?" Fan Fei was a little confused.

Ding Yi smiled and said nothing, letting Fan Fei think about it by himself.

Fan Fei pondered for a while, and suddenly realized that he nodded and said, "I understand, although selfishness is an instinct, you have to learn to cover up this instinct, and even more often show generosity to get more benefits for yourself and finally satisfy your greatest selfish desire. As the saying goes, those who steal the hook are killed and steal. The princes of the country! Just like the timely rain Song Jiang, although he doesn't have much ability, he is especially good at attracting people's hearts and giving a wide range of favors. Although he doesn't want to repay his kindness, in the end he gets Liang Shan's top seat. And Liu Bei, who is similar to Song Jiang. What he finally got is a country..."

"Alas, you men..." The old Buddha's snoring suddenly stopped. She opened her eyes and stared at Ding Yi and Fan Fei with dissatisfaction.

"Mom, this is the emperor's mind, which is different from your rule of 'don't talk about state affairs'. I'm not teaching Fan Fei bad. I just want to mention him, which is good for him. Ding Yi explained helplessly.

The old Buddha looked at his son again, snorted, closed his eyes, and soon snored again, which was tacit.

"There is no need to hammer the drum, Fan Fei, you still have some understanding, so I won't say more. I just hope you can reflect on it more often, which is very good for your life path. Ding Yi turned around, said with relief, then stood up and said, "Okay, let's talk about it today."

"Uh...Uncle Ding, is this the end of the conversation?" Seeing Ding Yi's appearance of delivering tea to the guests and leaving him for dinner, Fan Fei was stunned and quickly asked carefully, "So between me and Ding Shichen, do you agree?"

"Agree?" Ding Yi was also stunned, and then a wry smile appeared on his face and said indifferently, "Fan Fei, you are a smart person. You can't even understand the meaning of what I just said, can you?"

"Uncle Ding, I know you mean that I have a bad personality and I am not suitable for your daughter. But I have figured out my problem. Can't I change it in the future?" Fan Fei asked desperately.

" Change? The country is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change!" Ding Yi smiled and said lightly, "You should have heard of the word "easy to do". It's one thing to know, but it's another thing to do. Although you understand your weakness now, whether you can change it in the future is still completely unknown. I guess it will be difficult..."

"I'm sure I can change it! I'm sure you can!" Fan Fei was anxious and said loudly, "Uncle Ding, give me a chance."

Ding Yi touched his nose and smiled bitterly. Then he picked up the phone on the desk and pressed a few keys. Two five and three thick bodyguards immediately pushed the door into the study. It seemed that they wanted to kick Fan Fei out.

"Well said, why did you quarrel? Sit down and have a good talk!" At the critical moment, the old Buddha's snoring stopped again. She opened her eyes, frowned and stared at Ding Yi, and her tone suddenly became a little more majestic.

Ding Yi waved his hand helplessly and asked the bodyguard to retreat. Then he sat down and meditated for a while before slowly saying, "Okay, Fan Fei, I'll tell you more. In the heart of every father, there is a group of ** thieves who think about their beautiful daughters, so they have to guard against them like thieves, so as not to hurt their daughters. I am also a layman and a selfish person, so I inevitably have this idea. I know that you have many advantages. You have good academic performance, good kung fu, good at literature and martial arts. You are still a smart person, scheming and ambitious. You may have more achievements than me in the future. Besides, our Ding family also has a few small money, which may not last for a few lifetimes, so we don't care about your family's situation and whether you can be the right person. So, in theory, I shouldn't object to your relationship with Shichen... But it's your two shortcomings that I can't get over that hurdle in my heart, because you will definitely hurt Shichen!"

"Uncle Ding, it's not so serious, is it?" Fan Fei said with a wry smile.

"Listen to me." Ding Yi said lightly, "Reckless and selfish, these two personalities are sometimes opposite. For example, on the battlefield, reckless people are usually not selfish and dare to rush to the front. This kind of person generally dies the fastest. Selfish people are usually not reckless, but hide in the end, but sometimes the more afraid of death, the faster they die. And you have these two personalities at the same time, which means that you will have greater risks.

Fan Fei opened his mouth and wanted to refute, but in the end he suppressed his impulse and listened quietly.

"For example, you have just said that you have repaired Luo Yong. You have just said that you are angry for a moment and feel that your interests have been harmed. You must vent your anger, otherwise it will be meaningless to live. This is the extreme caused by your selfishness. Finally, it makes you act recklessly and stab the hornet's nest regardless of the consequences. Do you know whether to hit the stone with an egg or do it with a fluke mentality.

Ding Yi picked up a cup of tea and took a sip, and then said, "And I also heard that you helped Lu Heng. You didn't have to take such a big risk this time. If you don't care about Lv Heng's life or death... But you finally care about it. This time you are not selfish, but this impulse is even more deadly. The word "recklessness" alone makes you walk back and forth in front of death. Even if you pick up a life, you still have endless troubles, because you have singled out the whole Luo family and offended thousands of people in the Luo family. They all want to put you to death! A child like you who can kill at any time, can I rest assured that Shichen can go out with you? Can I not worry that you will implict her?

"But in the hospital, they dare not touch me at all!" Fan Fei finally couldn't help retorting.

There are hundreds of injured people living in the County People's Hospital, all of whom were injured by Fan Fei that night. At first, Fan Fei was also worried that they would come to kill him and Lv Heng, but he didn't see any movement from them for several days, and Lv Heng's colleagues also protected him with guns for a few days, so later Fan Fei felt that they were afraid of being beaten by him.

"Do you think they really care about Lu Heng and his colleagues?" Ding Yi smiled and said, "That's because I reached an agreement with their Luo family. I lost five million to treat their wounds. I only made a request that they can't touch you until they see you and deal with Shichen's affairs with you.

"Five million..."

Fan Fei suddenly took a breath of cold air, and his heart was mixed for a moment, and the indescribable taste.

But one thing is for sure, he is in pain, for the five million...

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(I picked up a lot of things as soon as I went to work today. I didn't go home for dinner and code words until 8 p.m. I'm depressed, so today's chapter has been postponed to the evening, and there is only one update. I'm sorry. It is estimated that it will not be updated until about 10 a.m. tomorrow, but it will resume two updates a day tomorrow, and there will be an update at 8 p.m. Hehe, please ask for tickets and collect.

In addition, I recommend a friend's "Exerness Judge", which is also an urban power. There is a link below, book number 71513.)